Mother Angelica on Love and Marriage

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The couple that prays together, stays together.

Supernatural Love is what enables you to keep loving your spouse or your children or your best friend when at the moment you are hard pressed to find anything lovable about them It allows you to keep in mind that everyday annoyances that can drive you crazy – the unmade bed, the car left on empty, the squeezing of the toothpaste tube in the middle, the monopolizing of the TV’s remote control – are small items in the overall scope of things. How? By making you aware that love is a decision, not just a feeling, and that you can decide to love as God loves – freely and endlessly.

Supernatural Love is the kind of love that keeps marriages vibrant, families solid, friendships strong. It’s the kind of love that inspires Christians to true acts of kindness and charity. Supernatural Love doesn’t judge or ask questions. It simply gives.

-Mother Angelia Answers, Not Promises (p. 39)

This is why Marriage is a Sacrament.

Msgr. Charles Pope recently had some great marriage advice.

TOB Tuesday: Love and Responsibility

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Dr. Richard Fitzgibbons, director of the Institute for Marital Healing, comments on our confusion about the nature of love and addresses Pope John Paul II’s Love and Responsibility, the precursor to his theology of the body:

Love and Responsibility from Anteroom Pictures on Vimeo.

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Pacino Wins Emmy for Dr. Death Portrayal

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Dr. Death, PacinoLife just keeps getting better for convicted murderer Jack Kevorkian. Not only was he recently portrayed by none other than screen legend Al Pacino in an HBO biopec, but Sunday night he got to attend and received special recognition at this year’s Primetime Emmy awards.

You Don’t Know Jack” was nominated for a total of 15 Emmys and won two: Outstanding Lead Actor and Outstanding Writing in a Miniseries or Movie. While it was a little disgusting to hear Al Pacino, in his acceptance speech, refer to Kevorkian as “brilliant and interesting and unique” and then watch Dr. Death himself stand up to a round of applause as Pacino yelled, “You’re all right Jack!”, I do think the film’s writer, Adam Mazer, had the best line of the night:

“Jack Kevorkian, I’m so grateful that you are my friend, but I’m even more grateful that you’re not my physician.”

It’s an interesting comment coming from a man who wrote what I can only imagine is a movie that celebrates the not-so good “Dr.” and his deadly “medical” practice. Although I did read some mixed pro-life reviews of it, so maybe it’s not as celebratory as I thought it would be (but I still have no desire to actually find out for myself).

At any rate, I’m glad to see that the Academy of Television Arts & Sciences did not give it top honors as the most outstanding picture in it’s category. That award, I’m pleased to say, went to “Temple Grandin,” about the life of a severely autistic woman who has become one of the top scientists in the humane livestock handling industry. Grandin won 5 of its 15 nominations that night. Nice to see Hollywood honor life over death for a change.

For those of you who “don’t know Jack,” Wesley Smith has several details to offer. Also, I don’t mean, in this post, to come across as though I do not wish for life to be kind to Mr. Kevorkian or that I think bad things should happen to him. He did “serve his time” and I pray for his conversion. But the man is being heralded for being a murderer. Besides this movie, however it ultimately portrayed him, he has been granted several high profile, high paying speaking engagements and interviews to defend his actions and spread his poisonous pro-euthanasia/assisted suicide beliefs.

Boo-hoo! Scientists Can’t Destroy Embryos on Taxpayer Dime :-(

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In the wake of Monday’s court ruling against federal funding for embryonic stem cell research I’ve been reading story after story about researchers across the country complaining about how this decision negatively impacts the progression of ESCR. From these stories you would think that the judge actually banned ESCR completely. Apparently, the entire future of ESCR depends on the American taxpayers footing the bill. An example from one story:

The court decision, if upheld, Dr. Studer said, could mean difficult choices for researchers: Either find private funding, leave the United States or delay their studies in hopes that a different kind of stem cell can be found that will work equally well.

Oh no! How terrible! Finding private investors whom you know actually agree with your barbaric experimentation and are willing to give you money for it instead of forcing taxpayers, many of whom have serious moral and ethical objections to the cannibalizing of tiny human beings, to fund it?? Not fair!

Please. Pardon me if I do not weep on your behalf. Really, the last thing our already overstretched government needs to be doing is spending money it does not have on research which, on top of being ethically reprehensible, has also proven to be woefully ineffective and, thankfully, unnecessary – a big reason why ESC researchers aren’t receiving sustainable funds from private investors and now lobby heavily for federal and state $.

I finally read through the actual ruling today and, I have to say, I am even more impressed with Judge Lamberth (a Reagan appointee) than I was when I first heard about his decision on Monday. Not only did he determine that the Dickey Amendment prohibits the Government from funding any stage of research that requires the destruction of a human embryo, but, in response to complaints that not allowing this funding would hurt ESC researchers and sick, suffering individuals, he said:

The injunction, however, would not seriously harm ESC researchers because the injunction would simply preserve the status quo and would not interfere with their ability to obtain private funding for their research. In addition, the harm to individuals who suffer from diseases that one day may be treatable as a result of ESC research is speculative. It is not certain whether ESC research will result in new and successful treatments for diseases such as Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s disease.

Awesome! This guy has some serious common sense as well as a clear understanding of the law. I like!

This isn’t over yet, of course. The Obama Administration is planning to appeal the decision. And, as I said on Monday, look for some members of Congress to try to kill Dickey when it’s up for renewal at the end of this fiscal year or possibly get serious about trying to pass the “Stem Cell Research Advancement Act of 2009” or some form of it, redefining cloning and effectively allowing the government to fund the creation and use of cloned human embryos for scientific research.

St. Monica, Model Wife and Mother

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nullToday we celebrate the feast of the mother of one of the Church’s most celebrated saints. St. Monica, mother of St. Augustine (whose feast day is tomorrow), prayed unceasingly for the conversion of her famous son, and, as we all know, was happily obliged by Our Lord. Not only that, but her husband, Patricius, a pagan with a terrible temper, converted to Christianity and was baptized a year before his death thanks to her prayers as well.

She is a wonderful example for married couples and parents who are called to care above all for the spiritual well being of their spouse and children. I believe that it was not only her prayers, but also her example as a pious Christian woman that also won over her husband and son. This passage from 1 Peter makes me think of St. Monica and the example that all married women should give:

Likewise, you wives be submissive to your husbands, so that some, though they do not obey the word, may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, when they see your reverent and chaste behavior. Let not yours be the outward adorning with braiding of hair, decoration of gold, and wearing of robes, but let it be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable jewel of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
1 Peter 3:1-5

She is also an example to all of us of our call to persevere in prayer. The conversion of St. Augustine did not happen overnight. It was a long, turbulent journey (20 years or more) during which the reluctant saint fell in and out of serious sin and his mother deeper and deeper into a conversation with Christ on behalf of her son, storming the gates of heaven with her constant tears and prayer.

In the end this great mother witnessed the baptism of one of our greatest saints and spent the last days of her life reflecting with him and longing for the joys of heaven:

“Son, as far as I am concerned, nothing in this life now gives me any pleasure. I do not know why I am still here, since I have no further hopes in this world. I did have one reason for wanting to live a little longer: to see you become a Catholic Christian before I died. God has lavished his gifts on me in that respect, for I know that you have renounced earthly happiness to be his servant. So what am I doing here?”
from St. Augustine’s Confessions

Her final request was that her son, who became a priest and bishop, remember her “at the altar of the Lord wherever you may be.”

Listen to Me Live Online!

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Sorry for the short notice – but I will be live online with Jerry Weber, host of The Catholic Revolver, at 5 pm CST today (8/25/10). Listen live here: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/catholicrevolver. All of Jerry’s shows are recorded and later available in a podcast format on his website, so be sure to check that out if you miss this show!

TOB Tuesday: Making Love

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Brian Killian has an excellent article up at Catholic Exchange taking a look at the romanticized Hollywood “love” scenes and how we typically view the act of sexual intercourse today:

Remember the older Hollywood love scenes?

A man and woman are wrapped in each other’s arms in front of gently billowing curtains and moonlight as they tenderly and lovingly kiss and caress each other–beautiful music playing in the background–for what seems like hours of intimate bliss.

Today, we might laugh at such a romanticized picture of lovemaking and object that the reality is much different. We might note that in real life sex is less graceful, more sweaty, and seemingly related more to the animal than the angelic.

Of course, humans share with animals the same mechanics of sex. In that respect it’s true that those love scenes are not very true to life. But this is taking these scenes too literally. They express an intuition about sex that is not only true, but is in danger of being lost. And the truth is that…

Sex Really Can be “Making Love”

Those romanticized love scenes are not supposed to be realistic depictions of sex, but metaphors of making love. They turn the lovers inside out so that we don’t get misled by the external details–which obscure the inner truth–but show us the reality of what is being expressed by the lovers.

Read the rest in which he talks about how human sexual relations should always incorporate the interior and the exterior – the spiritual as well as the physical. After all, to use the words of JP II:

[M]an is a person in the unity of his body and his spirit. The body can never be reduced to mere matter: it is a spiritualized body, just as man’s spirit is so closely united to the body that he can be described as an embodied spirit (Letter to Families, n. 19)

Visit Brian’s website: http://nuptialmystery.com.

His article reminds me of my favorite movie “love scene” ever. From Cat on a Hot Tin Roof – so hot, and NO NUDITY:

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Court Blocks New Fed. Funding for ESCR! *Updated*

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This is encouraging news:

A federal judge temporarily blocked the Obama administration Monday from using federal dollars to fund expanded human embryonic stem cell research, saying the research involves the destruction of embryos.

The ruling comes after the National Institutes of Health last year issued new guidelines permitting federal funding for research on certain stem cell lines that had already been created.

The court challenge was brought by adult stem cell researchers who argued the new rules not only would increase competition for limited funds, but violated federal law. A nonprofit group, Nightlight Christian Adoptions, also joined and argued that the government’s new guidelines would decrease the number of human embryos available for adoption.

The District Court for the District of Columbia granted a preliminary injunction on the research, saying the plaintiffs would suffer “irreparable injury” from the policy and that the new guidelines violated federal law that prohibits federally funded research involving the destruction of human embryos.

Read the rest!

As it stands right now, there are in place legislative restrictions on using appropriated funds for the creation of human embryos for research or for research in which human embryos are destroyed. This is the Dickey Amendment, which has been included in spending bills in every fiscal year since 1996 and which Congress yet again passed last March.

*Update* Reminder: Several members of Congress would love to finally get rid of the Dickey amendment altogether, or find some crafty way to get around it. Although cloning and stem cell research has not seemed to have been a very high priority for Congress this year, there is a possibility that they still could either a: kill Dickey when it’s up for renewal at the end of this fiscal year or b: try to pass the “Stem Cell Research Advancement Act of 2009” or some form of it, redefining cloning and effectively allowing the government to fund the creation and use of cloned human embryos for scientific research.

Also, and I’ve said this quite often, but it really needs to be repeated: There is absolutely NO FEDERAL BAN ON EMBRYONIC STEM CELL RESEARCH! There is only a ban on FUNDING the creation and destruction of human embryos in the name of science…for now.

*Update II* See Rebecca Taylor’s detailed explanation of how things have gone down for the past few years with regards to federal funding of ESCR and the latest court ruling.

The Apostolate of Suffering Redux

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Anointing of the SickI just started reading Brian J. Gail’s novel Fatherless about men in the “post-Pill generation.” I’m only a chapter in, but I was just struck by a paragraph at the very end of Ch. 1 that reminded me of something I’ve been wanting to re-post since I talked about it when I was on Life on the Rock last month. In the book the character Fr. John Sweeney is visiting a deathly ill parishioner and giving her the “Anointing of the Sick”:

As John Sweeney prayed, he anointed, and as he anointed, he invoked his deceased father’s intercession on behalf of this faithful wife and mother. He finished, closed the book, and began packing his carrying case. There was simply nothing more he could do for Margaret Kealey. She reached for his hand. He clasped it with both of his and whispered, “God loves you, Maggie. The Church thanks you for the gift of your suffering.” Then, under his breath, “The good Lord knows we have never needed it more.”

Last week I had a few posts on how accepting suffering can spiritually benefit the suffering individual, but there is, or can be, an apostolic element to suffering as well:

The Apostolate of Suffering (orig. post 9/15/09)

In my scripture reading today I came across Christ’s instructions to His Apostles on how they were to go out and spread the Good News (Lk. 9:1-6). This part of the Gospel has inspired missionaries throughout the centuries to travel around the world in order to share our faith with others and help those in need. It also reminds those of us who are not called to go to such great lengths in our apostolate that we still have a duty to spread the Good News to those around us, our friends, family, co-workers, etc…

This really is the call to all Christians everywhere and without exception. But what about those who don’t appear to have too much to offer in the way of evangelization? The sick, the suffering, the severely disabled, the emotionally disturbed, the home bound. For many of these people life itself can be painful. Maybe they can’t communicate or get out of their own beds. Are they worthless as apostles under such circumstances? Have they nothing at all to offer?

On the contrary:

Those who pray and suffer, leaving action for others, will not shine here on earth; but what a radiant crown they will wear in the kingdom of life! Blessed be the “apostolate of suffering”! –St. Josemaria

If only every suffering soul could see how valuable their life really is – not only for their own sake, but for the mission of the church throughout the world!

St. ThereseA great modern example of this is St. Therese of Lisieux who is the patron saint of missions, yet in all her religious life, she never set foot outside the Carmel walls. Though unsurpassed in humility and “littleness”, as she called it, Therese was a very ambitious little soul. In her autobiography she divulges that she had a great desire for the foreign missions and making Christ known to the whole world:

Ah! in spite of my littleness, I would like to enlighten souls as did the Prophets and the Doctors. I have the vocation of the Apostle. I would like to travel over the whole earth to preach Your Name and to plant Your glorious Cross on infidel soil. But O my Beloved, one mission alone would not be sufficient for me, I would want to preach the Gospel on all the five continents simultaneously and even to the most remote isles. I would be a missionary, not for a few years only but from the beginning of creation until the consummation of the ages. But above all, O my Beloved Savior, I would shed my blood for You even to the very last drop. (p. 192-193)

Even her superior acknowledged that she had such a vocation, but that her health prevented her from doing so (p. 217). Much of her life in the Carmel was spent in poor health, especially after she contracted tuberculosis, from which she would die at a very early age. Unable to actively participate in the missionary apostolate, she surrendered herself completely to the apostolate of suffering for the sake of souls:

“suffering opened wide its arms to me and I threw myself into them with love…Jesus made me understand that it was through suffering that He wanted to give me souls, and my attraction for suffering grew in proportion to its increase” (p. 149)

And so it can be for those in extreme suffering and with our own sufferings big and small. Instead of considering life less valuable or without meaning because of deteriorating health or decreased physical mobility, we can endure our sufferings and offer that which we endure to our crucified Lord for the salvation of souls. We can do this because of the feast we celebrated yesterday, the Triumph of the Cross. For when we unite our sufferings to Christ on the cross, it is not for the sake of suffering itself, but for the redemption of that suffering through the Victory of the eternal sacrifice of the Word made flesh.

Had there been no cross, Christ could not have been crucified. Had there been no cross, life itself could not have been nailed to the tree. And if life had not been nailed to it, there would be no streams of immortality pouring from Christ’s side, blood and water for the world’s cleansing. The legal bond of our sin would not be cancelled, we should not have attained our freedom, we should not have enjoyed the fruit of the tree of life and the gates of paradise would not stand open. Had there been no cross, death would not have been trodden underfoot, nor hell despoiled.

Therefore, the cross is something wonderfully great and honourable. It is great because through the cross the many noble acts of Christ found their consummation – very many indeed, for both his miracles and his sufferings were fully rewarded with victory. The cross is honourable because it is both the sign of God’s suffering and the trophy of his victory. It stands for his suffering because on it he freely suffered unto death. But it is also his trophy because it was the means by which the devil was wounded and death conquered; the barred gates of hell were smashed, and the cross became the one common salvation of the whole world. (from a discourse of St Andrew of Crete)

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N.B.: There is so much wasted suffering in the world today. As I said last week:

How often do we desperately pray that God will deliver us or a loved one from suffering without also praising Him for the gift of being able to share in the Cross and asking for the strength to persevere in the midst of affliction?

Prayer: You have given the sick and the suffering a share in your cross, give them patience and strength. Have mercy on your people, Lord.

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Four Year Itch?

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Dearest readers,

I don’t know how many “regulars” I have out there in the inter-webs, but I just wanted to give you a heads up that blogging might be a little sparse during the next few…weeks…maybe? First of all, I need to dedicate a good amount of time to doing a project for my parents’ business, as well as some other work that desperately needs to get done. But also, and I tweeted this earlier today, it’s beginning to feel as though I’ve almost completely lost my blogging voice. Let’s just say the words aren’t coming to me as easily as they used to. I don’t know if it’s just your average, run-of-the-mill writer’s block, or what, but, it’s been a frustration for several months now and the more I try to force myself to write or at least comment on something, the more I get fed up with the whole thing. I did notice that next month will mark four years of (relatively constant) blogging for me, so I’m hoping this is just a bit of “blog fatigue” that will pass with time.

I wouldn’t necessarily call this a blog “break”, per se (though I do intend to cut Twitter out of my diet altogether during this time). I’m just going to step back and take a little more relaxed approach to blogging for a while, reminding myself that the world will not end if I do not post every day! I’ll also be spending more time nurturing a very stale and stagnant spiritual life, keeping in mind the advice of my spiritual director: “without regular time for prayer you risk becoming ‘just an activist’ – we should want to be saints first.” See my post: Sanctity, Prayer and Activism

Thanks for all your support! I hope you will be patient with me. I definitely do not want to give up on this thing entirely, but I don’t want to get completely burnt out on it, either.

P.S. I just noticed that BABIES! is available to rent on iTunes/Apple TV!! It will be out on DVD later this month. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anything so cute in my entire life. Watch it! You will not be disappointed.