None of the Above – Updated*

Chelsea2008 Election1 Comment

nullWND has bumper stickers and buttons for those who can’t stand the thought of voting for either Barack Obama or John McCain. I still don’t know what the right answer is here. Many are waiting to see who John McCain picks as his VP candidate. I’ve heard names like Sarah Palin and Mitt Romney (puke). One name that is apparently still on the short list, according to a McCain campaign adviser, is pro-abortion Democrat Joseph Lieberman. According to this advisor, “[McCain] loves Lieberman. And he is on the [short] list because Lieberman has never embarrassed anyone, never misspoken. The first rule is, don’t take someone who costs you votes.” Admittedly this would cause a huge problem among conservatives, but, as the McCain aide said, “sometimes John does what John wants to do.” Isn’t that the truth? He didn’t let a little thing like defending innocent human life stop him from voting to expand federal funding for ESC research, so I doubt he’d have serious qualms about choosing Lieberman despite the potential for a conservative fallout. The good thing is that Lieberman has repeatedly said that he would not consider running with McCain.

*Found this funny video from Barely Political: Kissing Up to McCain:

An Altar of Life Giving Sacrifice

ChelseaFamily, Love, Marriage, Vocation4 Comments

nullIn honor of my very good friend enduring a painful 27 hours of labor in order to bring her first child, boy Kale, into the world yesterday morning I share this passage from Scott Hahn’s book, First Comes Love. It is a beautiful commentary on what it was like to witness his wife, Kimberly, go through 30 hours of labor and the birth of their first child (it also corresponds nicely to my previous post, Sacred Femininity):

    I married Kimberly Kirk on August 18, 1979. We made our home and we knew the pleasure and the joy of the union of a man and a woman. It was not, however, in the ecstasy of our bodily union that I first glimpsed how a family most vividly manifests God’s life – though that union surely had something to do with it.

    For me, the first revelation came when Kimberly was nine and a half months pregnant with our first child. Her body had taken on new proportions and more than ever before I realized that her flesh was not created merely for my delight. What I had enjoyed as something beautiful was now becoming a means to a greater end.

    When she felt her first labor pains we rushed to the hospital with the anticipation that our baby would soon be in our arms. Kimberly’s labor was difficult, however, right from the start. I joked that if men could get pregnant, the human race would have been extinct soon after its creation.

    The hours dragged on, hours of hard labor, and Kimberly’s pain grew more intense. My heart gave lie to my joking, because I would gladly have taken on her pain at that moment.

    We passed a day this way, and then a night, and then another day began. After thirty hours of labor, the doctor saw little progress, and he recommended a cesarean section. This was not at all the way we had wanted things to go, but we saw that the choice was being taken out of our hands.

    Exhausted, I watched the nurses move Kimberly to a gurney and wheel her down the hall to another room. I walked alongside, holding her hand, praying with her and telling jokes – anything to lift her spirit.

    When we arrived at the operating room, the nurses moved Kimberly again, now to a table, where they strapped her down and sedated her. She was freezing cold, shivering, and afraid.

    I stood beside my wife, her body spread out and strapped cruciform to the table, cut open in order to bring new life to the world.

    Nothing my dad had told me about the facts of life, nothing I had learned in high school biology class, could have prepared me for that moment. The doctors allowed me to stay, to watch the operation. As the surgeon made his incisions, I beheld all of Kimberly’s major organs. “Truly,” I thought, “we are fearfully and wonderfully made!” Then came the moment when, from amid those organs, with a few careful movements of the doctor’s hands, came the beautiful body of my baby boy, my first born son, Michael.

    But it was Kimberly’s body that became something more than beautiful for me. Bloody and scarred and swollen with pain, it became something sacred, a living temple, a holy sanctuary, and an altar of life-giving sacrifice.

    nullThe life she gave to our world – this life we had made with God – I could now look upon and touch with my hands. A third person had entered the intimate unity of our home. This was the beginning of something new for me, and for Kimberly and me together. God had taken two starry-eyed lovers’ gazes and redirected them – but they were no less starry-eyed and no less loving. Now there were three in a happy home, whose love kept leading them to a home still happier.

Congratulations Mary Jo and Kyle! May your marriage and family always be a sign of the life-giving love of the Trinity.

The Consolation of the Christian Faith

ChelseaReligion, SufferingLeave a Comment

A great quote I found last week:

Jesus suffers to carry out the will of the Father. And you, who also want to carry out the most holy will of God, following the steps of the Master, can you complain if you meet suffering on your way? St. Josemaria Escriva, The Way n. 213

Another Christian man once told me, regarding my disability, “it’s a good thing you’re Catholic.” He was referring, no doubt, to the history of the Church and it’s members embracing suffering for the sake of the cross, but really all Christians have the same consolation and should rejoice to be in such company:

“The true shepherd is one who knows even the path that passes through the valley of death; one who walks with me even on the path of final solitude, where no one can accompany me, guiding me through: he himself has walked this path, he has descended into the kingdom of death, he has conquered death, and he has returned to accompany us now and to give us the certainty that, together with him, we can find a way through.” (Spe Salvi, n. 6)

Instead of complaining or violating human dignity to escape or avoid pain we must realize that we are not alone in our sufferings. Indeed, when we suffer we are even closer to the Redeemer through the power of the Cross.

“If any man would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” (Mt. 16:24-25)
“For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities; for when I a weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinth 12:10)
“In this you rejoice, though now for a little while you may have to suffer various trials, so that the genuineness of your faith, more precious than gold which though perishable is tested by fire, may redound to praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” (1 Pet 1:6-7)

The Christian faith has shown us that truth, justice and love are not simply ideals, but enormously weighty realities. It has shown us that God —Truth and Love in person—desired to suffer for us and with us. Bernard of Clairvaux coined the marvellous expression: Impassibilis est Deus, sed non incompassibilis[29]—God cannot suffer, but he can suffer with. Man is worth so much to God that he himself became man in order to suffer with man in an utterly real way—in flesh and blood—as is revealed to us in the account of Jesus’s Passion. Hence in all human suffering we are joined by one who experiences and carries that suffering with us; hence con-solatio is present in all suffering, the consolation of God’s compassionate love—and so the star of hope rises. (Spe Salve, n. 39)

This encyclical is a must read, especially for those who feel hopeless and alone in their suffering. What’s that? Okay…I’ll put up one more quote!

It is not the elemental spirits of the universe, the laws of matter, which ultimately govern the world and mankind, but a personal God governs the stars, that is, the universe; it is not the laws of matter and of evolution that have the final say, but reason, will, love—a Person. And if we know this Person and he knows us, then truly the inexorable power of material elements no longer has the last word; we are not slaves of the universe and of its laws, we are free. In ancient times, honest enquiring minds were aware of this. Heaven is not empty. Life is not a simple product of laws and the randomness of matter, but within everything and at the same time above everything, there is a personal will, there is a Spirit who in Jesus has revealed himself as Love[3]. (SS, n. 5)

Theology of the Body: Original Happiness

Chelsea2008 Election, Abortion, Marriage, Politics, Sex, SexualityLeave a Comment

Part four of the Cardinal Arinze podcast series on Theology of the Body is online:

In honor of the coming election and the large number of Catholics pledging to vote for Barack Obama, check out this already classic podcast from the Cardinal from this April: Send 12 Swiss Guards to arrest them all! (Q&A 2007 – part VII):

Subscribe to Cardinal Arinze’s webcast from the website or via itunes.

Previous posts:

Cardinal Arinze Webcasts TOB!
Barack Obama “Will Not Yield” on Abortion
Obama and Infanticide
Barack’s Disturbing Defense of Infanticide
Obama Facts

I Enjoyed Every Minute of It!

ChelseaDisabled, Suffering5 Comments

nullOK, so obviously it really takes me a while to get back into the swing of things after going on vacation. I did return safely Sunday afternoon from a very fun, but exhausting trip to Disney World. The Magic Kingdom was just as wonderful as I remembered. I managed to make it onto just about every ride – even Space Mountain (pictured here). And that one was way more intense than I remember. I know it’s not quite as fast and loopy as some of the bigger roller coasters at parks like Six Flags, but there’s nothing quite like being surrounded by darkness and not being able to anticipate which way you’re going to move next. It also didn’t help that I have absolutely no torso control so I was holding on for dear life to the seat in front of me – but I loved it! I have not been to any theme park since my accident so the roller coaster thing was a first for me. In case you’re wondering how I got into all these rides, here is a pic of my aunt and my cousin transferring me into the Splash Mountain log boat – it pretty much worked this way for every ride:

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We did Animal Kingdom the next day, but were so exhausted after MK the day before we decided against park hopping to Epcot as well.

nullWhile I was in waiting in line for Thunder Mountain (the ride I’m on here with my aunt) I was chatting with one of the ride’s “cast members” when the conversation inevitably turned to the wheelchair. I got the usual questions, what happened…how long have you been it it…will you ever walk again, etc… My answer of “no” to the last question that day prompted another typical response: after a slight look of pity comes the shocked “wow…well you seem pretty positive despite that.” Though I get that response often and I’m used to it, I couldn’t help laughing to myself a little bit this time and thinking, “of course I’m positive! Look at me; I may be in a wheelchair, but I’m a Disney World for crying out loud! Do you think I’m going to let a little thing like paralysis get in the way of my happiness and my ability to have fun? I’m about to go on a roller coaster right now and continue spending the day with my family visiting all of the rides and attractions that I grew up on (plus or minus a few) and I’ll enjoy every minute of it just as much, if not more than I did then when I could walk!” Sure, as in my daily life, I had to do things a little differently and there were a few things I could not participate in. But that’s nothing that should ever get in the way of my happiness or lower my sense of self worth.

People With Disabilities Can Live “Normal” Lives:

Shooting bad guys on Buzz Lightyear’s Space Ranger Spin (a first for me)
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Car racing at the Tomorrowland Speedway
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3-D Fun (L to R: Mickey’s Philharmagic at MK, It’s Tough to Be a Bug at AK)
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Obligatory pics in front of the castle with my mom and my sister
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My cousin Abigail fascinated by Small World
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The whole gang at Animal Kingdom
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If you’re at all interested, you can view more pics at the Hornburg/Jones/Zimmerman Disney 2008 flickr photo album. A book worth checking out: Walt Disney World With Disabilities.

EXCITING NEWS: In 2010 Universal Studios’ Islands of Adventure will be opening The Wizarding World of Harry Potter, a theme park within a theme park. Can you guess where I will be heading to next?!?!

I’m Going to Disney World!!!

ChelseaPro LifeLeave a Comment

Dear readers, just a little not to let you know that I will be leaving this afternoon to spend a few days at the happiest place on earth! When I was younger and we lived in Florida, we used to go to Disney about once a year. The last time I went was the summer before my accident (about 9 years ago), so this will be a different experience (fewer lines!!!). I will have a number of family members with me, so I will have a lot of help getting on and off the rides. Friday we go to the Magic Kingdom (our favorite) and Saturday we will go to Animal Kingdom (which we’ve never been to) and possibly Epcot in the afternoon.

I also want to give a big welcome to my new readers. I have gotten a few comments and messages from some new, or relatively new, readers over the past few weeks. I apologize for got getting back to all of you, but I really do love and appreciate all of your feedback and support! I won’t be able to post for a few days, but I please feel free to browse some of my past pro-life material on abortion, cloning and stem cell research and euthanasia. Because much of the culture of death has spread through a rejection, or at least a misunderstanding, of the truth and meaning of human sexuality, you can also find many posts dealing with sexuality, contraception, NFP, as well as marriage and family (most of these are overlapping posts). I also have a tendency to interject other things I greatly enjoy into the discussion as well, like college football and Harry Potter. Besides that, suffering and politics are the other big topics on this blog.

That’s all I have time to write!

Peace and Love to you all,
CZ

Humanae Vitae, the Church and Contraception

ChelseaChastity, Contraception, Faith, Family, Freedom, Natural Family Planning, Sex, Sexuality1 Comment

Our presentation on Humanae Vitae, the Church and Contraception this Sunday was a success. We had a very good crowd and I think the overall message got across pretty well in the short amount of time we had to deliver it. Truly each of the three speakers could have taken up the whole hour and a half themselves – so hopefully we’ll be able to do more of this in the future. I was able to shoot video of two of the talks before my memory card was full:

Here is Fr. Shetler, our associate pastor, explaining the Church’s teaching on contraception, sex and marriage:

Here is Spencer Allen, our grade school principal, explaining how he and his wife discovered the beauty of the Catholic Church’s teaching on sex and marriage, after contracepting for three or four years, and how they began to live that teaching within their own marriage:

The last speaker was Carolyn Tucker who runs the Creighton Model fertility clinic here in town giving a demonstration on how NFP works, how it has become more scientific and how it can be used to pinpoint the exact moments when a woman is fertile and when she is not. I didn’t have enough memory to take video of her talk, but it was wonderful!! Women should be using this even if they aren’t trying to achieve or avoid pregnancy. It’s a wonderful way to just know what is going on with your own body.

I was so pleased that Fr. Shetler even spoke about this in all of his homilies on Sunday!!! God love him! I would be willing to bet not many of the priests in our diocese even mentioned it (I know my spiritual director did at his parish at least). Fr. challenged and encouraged the faithful to stop being afraid of the Church’s teaching in this area. It exists for your happiness and to set you free!!

Read:
What is the Theology of the Body & Why is it Changing so Many Lives?
God, Sex, & Babies: What the Church Really Teaches about Responsible Parenthood

Pray for Babies Ryan and Kale

ChelseaPrayer, Pro Life2 Comments

On my way home from GA a few weeks ago I stopped in KY to see my friend Lena and her new baby, Ryan. We found out recently that Lena’s husband has been given orders to go overseas in December for another year (he has been to Iraq once already) – Ryan will be 6 months old when he leaves. Here’s a pic of the whole family (minus older brother Blake):

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    Little Ryan, after a bath:
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Last week I had dinner with my friend Mary Jo who is due to give birth to her first child, Kale, next week. She is getting very anxious and uncomfortable in her pregnancy, but she’s also excited and READY to finally hold the little guy in her arms (any day now, hopefully)!

    The overjoyed parents!
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    Little Kale, as of last month:
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Both baby boys and their mothers could really use some prayers!

Lena and I have been friends since the 5th grade and friends with Mary Jo since 9th grade. Here we are at MJ’s wedding last September:

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Happy Humanae Vitae Day!

ChelseaContraception, Sex, SexualityLeave a Comment

Humanae VitaeIt “fell like a bomb” on the Church. Forty years ago today, at the onset of the sexual revolution, a time when society was beginning to reexamine the very meaning and purpose of human sexuality, Pope Paul VI, under, I believe, direct guidance by the Holy Spirit, made it clear that the Catholic Church stood firm not only in favor of the Biblical and historical traditions of Christianity (note: every major Christian denomination condemned the use of artificial contraception until 1930), but of the very laws of nature:

This particular doctrine, often expounded by the magisterium of the Church, is based on the inseparable connection, established by God, which man on his own initiative may not break, between the unitive significance and the procreative significance which are both inherent to the marriage act.

The reason is that the fundamental nature of the marriage act, while uniting husband and wife in the closest intimacy, also renders them capable of generating new life—and this as a result of laws written into the actual nature of man and of woman. And if each of these essential qualities, the unitive and the procreative, is preserved, the use of marriage fully retains its sense of true mutual love and its ordination to the supreme responsibility of parenthood to which man is called. (Humanae Vitae, 12)

If you have not yet read this amazing encyclical, I highly suggest reading it this weekend. It’s very short and very easy to read. As much as people object to the Church’s position on contraception, and sex in general, intellectually it’s really the most basic and practical of all her teachings: sex exists for procreation. Knowing that procreation is good for our wellbeing as a society and necessary for our survival God, in His infinite Wisdom, did attach pleasure to the act of procreation (otherwise we probably wouldn’t do it), but that is not its purpose. It’s purpose is to form a bond between a man and woman (unity) through which new life is generated (procreation). This is not some Catholic theological concept, it’s quite obvious simply by looking at the male and female anatomy.

It is important to understand that the very reason we are facing the atrocity of abortion (not to mention divorce, widespread STDs, a rampant pornography industry and overall low moral standards, particularly when it comes to the human person, the human body) is because of the desecration of the marital act through the widespread and accepted indulgence of lust compounded by the use of contraception (this includes medication like the pill, “barrier methods” like condoms, surgical sterilization, “pulling out”, heerbal remedies or any other means used to intentionally sterilize the marital act). It is no mere coincidence that Roe v. Wade came after the lesser known Griswold v. Connecticut in 1965, overturning a CT law banning the use of contraception – the law that first declared the so-called “right to privacy” in the 14th Amendment. People did not wake up one day and decide they had a right to murder their own offspring. But they did eventually decide that it was their right to have meaningless sex without limit or consequence. It’s hard to have respect for innocent human life when you violate the very act through which that life is created.

To get a better sense of the damaging effects of contraception on society check out Dr. Janet E. Smith’s “Contraception: Why Not?”: part 1, part 2. Here’s a preview:

Not only society, but so many individuals have been deeply wounded by the lies they’ve accepted from our contraceptive culture, but they’re not without hope:

“we cannot forget the power of Christian conversion, that radical decision to turn away from sin and back to God, which reaches to the depths of a person’s soul and can work extraordinary change” (JP II)

God is nothing if not merciful and it is never too late to come back to Him with all our heart.

Contraception is to be judged so profoundly unlawful as never to be, for any reason, justified. To think or to say the contrary is equal to maintaining that in human life, situations may arise in which it is lawful not to recognize God as God (JPII, October 10, 1983).

To experience the gift of married love while respecting the laws of conception is to acknowledge that one is not the master of the sources of life but rather the minister of the design established by the Creator. Just as man does not have unlimited dominion over his body in general, so also, and with more particular reason, he has no such dominion over his specifically sexual faculties, for these are concerned by their very nature with the generation of life, of which God is the source (HV, 13).

NFP Awareness!

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nullLaunched by the U.S. Catholic Bishops, this week has been NFP Awareness Week! It highlights the 40th anniversary of Pope Paul VI’s encyclical Humanae Vitae this Friday the 25th and the feast of Sts. Joachim and Anne (the parents of Mary) on Saturday.

I am on the Gospel of Life Committee at our parish and we will be having a presentation on Sunday on Humanae Vitae, the Church and Contraception. Our associate pastor will be presenting the basic message of Humanae Vitae and the consistency of the Church’s teaching on contraception; a couple from our parish will give their testimony on what it’s like to live this teaching within their marriage; and a woman who directs the Our Lady Queen of Peace Center in our town (a Creighton Model fertility care clinic) will give a presentation on NFP.

The basic message of Humanae Vitae and the teaching of the Catholic Church in this regard is that “each and every marriage act must remain open to the transmission of life.” But that doesn’t mean that couples must constantly be reproducing. There may be at times serious reasons for a couple to avoid pregnancy. In these circumstances it is then acceptable for that couple to take advantage of the natural cycle, engaging in sexual intercourse only during those times when a woman is infertile. The great news here is that now women can keep track of their fertility – based on several biological clues – with almost pinpoint accuracy, making NFP highly effective in both achieving and postponing pregnancy.

This is the profound difference between NFP and contraception. Infertile intercourse is an act of God, whereas, through contraception, the couple, “takes the powers of life into their own hands with the intent of thwarting God’s creative designs.” It is the difference between being non-procreative (NFP) and anti-procreative (contraception). That is why the practice of NFP must always be undertaken with a “procreative attitude”:

The right and lawful ordering of birth demands, first of all, that spouses fully recognize and value the true blessings of family life and that they acquire complete mastery over themselves and their emotions (HV, 21)


Other advantages of NFP:

    ~It is 100% NATURAL and much better for your body
    ~NFP methods, together with NaProTECHNOLOGY, have been used to effectively achieve pregnancy by identifying and then correcting the underlying causes for infertility and multiple miscarriages (see my post NFP Works!).
    ~It is also good for women in general, young/old, married/single, to be in tune with their own bodies.
    ~Listen to Greg and Jennifer Willits from the Rosary Army Catholic Podcast share how NFP has “enhanced our marriage in so many ways” and even given them a greater appreciation for the marital act itself.

It should be noted that the Church’s position on contraception and really on sex and marriage in general is not merely some made up Catholic law. It is a truth, rooted in laws of nature:

This particular doctrine, often expounded by the magisterium of the Church, is based on the inseparable connection, established by God, which man on his own initiative may not break, between the unitive significance and the procreative significance which are both inherent to the marriage act.

The reason is that the fundamental nature of the marriage act, while uniting husband and wife in the closest intimacy, also renders them capable of generating new life—and this as a result of laws written into the actual nature of man and of woman. And if each of these essential qualities, the unitive and the procreative, is preserved, the use of marriage fully retains its sense of true mutual love and its ordination to the supreme responsibility of parenthood to which man is called. (HV, 12)

Read: God, Sex and Babies, What the Church Really Teaches About Responsible Parenthood

NFP info:
Couple to Couple League
Pope Paul VI Institute

Previous posts:
How Can There Be Too Many Children?
NFP vs. Contraception
NFP in Scripture!
NFP Podcast!
NFP Works!
Contraception Videos
Married Life and the Gift of Love