This was a very interesting op-ed by a woman who shares her experience in a women’s book club meeting in which five of the six women (the author being one of them) admitted to having an abortion in the early years after Roe v. Wade:
We were among the first wave of girls who came of age after abortion became widely available in the 1970s. This past week marked the 35th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the landmark U.S. Supreme Court decision that legalized abortion in the United States. Because of that, my friends and I – and millions of girls and women who followed us – were offered a safe alternative to shaming our parents, dropping out of school, marrying too young or suffering the trauma of adoption.
We sought abortions greedily.
Fewer women are having abortions these days. A much-discussed study released recently by the Guttmacher Institute showed a drastic 25 percent decrease in the number of abortions performed in the United States over the past decade. That may be because teens are better educated about sex or women have better access to birth control than we had. Or perhaps society has a more humane attitude toward single parenthood and adoption. I really don’t know why.
What I do know is that many of us who gratefully sought abortions in that first wave are mothers now. And our feelings toward abortion have become more complicated over time. For some, abortion is still viewed as our liberator, the event that allowed us to live the rest of our lives.
For others, it’s our burden. We can’t look at the children we have now without thinking of the babies who were never born.
Abortion is many things to many people, but to those who have experienced it first hand it is something uniquely personal. We would do well to keep a sympathetic eye out in our public discussions on the matter, for one never knows whom might be post abortive.
For those who seek it, healing is possible