Last week I talked about the gift of masculinity. Today then I will focus on woman and the gift of femininity – specifically our gift of receptivity.

In terms of living according to genuine masculinity and femininity, today’s men and women are further disadvantaged by the rise of radical feminism that does merely encourage the “equality” of the sexes, but does so in a way that pressures women to effectively become more masculine, to compete with men and pursue manly things while at the same time discouraging men from their own active masculine nature. This is true not only in the world of education, business and even war, but in the everyday interactions between men and women, especially in relationships. More and more women are becoming the aggressor in this particular area – making the ‘first move’ in their pursuit of male companionship and more.

But this is not who women are meant to be for men. Quoting again from Fr. Loya at Catholic Exchange:

A woman’s body has an “open space” within her very center. It is called a womb. An open space by its nature seeks to be filled. Therefore, the “language” of a woman’s body speaks of her fundamental desire of wanting to be relationally “ful-filled.” We can say that in the order of nature man is the one who loves and woman is the one who is loved, who has been designed with the special “genius” which is her gift of receptivity.

In a recently discovered batch of undelivered talks on the Theology of the Body, we discover John Paul II’s reflections on the Song of Songs. In ch. 4 of this erotic love poem that is at once about two lovers and at the same time a description of God’s love for His people or Christ’s love for the Church, the bride-groom describes his bride as “a garden locked, a fountain sealed.” This metaphor, says JP II, “expresses the whole personal dignity of the sex.” It indicates the woman’s “personal structure of self possession.”

The bride presents herself to the eyes of the man as the master of her own mystery.

The woman holds the key to her own “garden”; a garden which remains locked until she alone wills to open it. Yet, this obviously empowered woman does not go out herself in pursuit of a lover worthy of such a gift, rather she allows herself to be pursued – to receive the gift of a worthy lover and to open herself up to that lover in return.

This call to receptivity is stamped right into our very bodies. As Fr. points out, at the center of a woman’s body lies an open space – a womb. The purpose of this womb as God created it is to receive man’s gift and bear it’s fruit. This reception is not a matter of passivity or weakness, but of active cooperation. In the language of our bodies, man initiates and donates and woman accepts and receives. This is not some sort of societal sexism. It is the way we are made as male and female and called to cooperate with each other in the difference of our sexes. The most wonderful about it is that by the God’s grace this beautiful cooperation allows men and women to share in His life-giving Trinitarian love.

Also, allowing ourselves to receive calls men, our brothers, to a greatness that is not expected of them once woman becomes more sexually aggressive. As CE columnist Jenny Senour put it,

There are boys who’ve yet to become men, largely thanks to the influence of the women in their lives who refuse to call them to greatness.

(so much for getting this done earlier next time)

Recommended:
TOB columns –
The Language of the Female Body
Sex and the City (of God)
Alice von Hildebrand on Feminism and Femininity

Books -
Man and Woman He Created Them: A Theology of the Body – an updated version of all of JPII’s TOB homilies, including his reflections on the Song of Songs and the book of Tobit
Heaven’s Song: Sexual Love as it was Meant to Be – Christopher West’s own reflections on the Pope’s previously hidden talks
The Privilege of Being a Woman – a must read for all women!

Other writings -
Mulieris Dignitatem – JP II’s letter on the Dignity and Vocation of Women
Society and Church Needs Genius of Woman – JP II’s Angelus message, 7/23/95