This is a great song from Natasha Bedingfield – and refreshing considering the anti-Marriage/family “hook-up” mentality plaguing our young people today:
From the song:
I wanna have your babies
Get serious like crazy
I wanna have your babies
I see ’em springin up like daisies
Remember the good old days when all “dating” really was about finding the right person to eventually start a family with? I don’t, of course. That practice had long died out by the time I reached puberty. Nowadays it’s often little more than a quest for personal gratification and a few moments of pleasure. I did notice, though, when I attended Ave Maria University a few years ago, that courtship is making a comeback and it’s quite encouraging. It’s a modern courtship to be sure, but I can’t help being reminded of The Quiet Man when I think of courting (see the end of video 1/beginning of 2):
Let the courting commence!
Read: Arms of Love – a novel about purity and courtship. A couple that I was friends with at Ave read this book together while they were dating. They got married shortly after they graduated (a little over a year ago) and are expecting their first child – a girl – due in January. That school is producing some incredible Marriage vocations.
Related article: TV’s Contempt for Marriage
One Comment on “I Wanna Have Your Babies”
“Remember the good old days when all ‘dating’ really was about finding the right person to eventually start a family with? I don’t, of course.”
I can’t say I know what it was even like when I was in high school, since I wasn’t dating then. (Not that I really do much now…) But I often hesitate to say that these days, because I now fear that if I tell people I don’t really date much then they’ll assume that I’ve been part of the hook-up culture, which I haven’t at all. I’m not going to judge those who have, but I was never really looking to do “those things” even with someone I really cared about, let alone a stranger, acquaintance, or friend.
They say the hook-up culture spits out people whole, but I was a victim of it in the reverse way: in college, I was hoping to find someone to hold hands with while walking about campus, swishing through the leaves and scrunching through the snow, sometimes listening to music in a little ball on the floor, nestled together and half-falling asleep…
…needless to say, not many at college were looking for that (and, again, more power to ’em), and this meant an unsuccessful search for me.
“I did notice, though, when I attended Ave Maria University a few years ago, that courtship is making a comeback and it’s quite encouraging.”
I like the idea that you go out with someone only when you have feelings for her/him, rather than going out with six people per week, but I’m a bit leery of the gender norms often associated with courting. In my view, either person can ask the other out. Sometimes, the male is shy and wrongly presumes the female has no interest in him. If she’s “forbidden” to do the asking, they could miss out on something wonderful. I also think both parties should (when they can — I understand, CZ) hold the door for each other, drive, get each other gifts and tokens of love, and so forth. In other words, BOTH people should be doing some wooing, not just the guy all the time.
“It’s a modern courtship to be sure, but I can’t help being reminded of The Quiet Man when I think of courting.”
While I couldn’t find it in your clips, I have heard that there’s a scene in that film in which the leading lady slaps the leading man’s face. That’s a big no-no and deal-breaker for me, no matter the genders of the hitter and the hittee. I’m sure you didn’t use this film for that reason, but it (the “domestic abuse double standard”) is one more “old-fashioned” thing that needs to disappear…